Quite often as blokes we have been told to get in touch with our feminine side. What an affront and insult to our intelligence, over time this has been part of the language barrier that has put blokes positive approaches to wellbeing issues in reverse.

 


There are three parts to our health; physical, mental and social/spiritual wellbeing. The latter is where we find: our identity, our individuality, our own sense of self, our sense of belonging, our passions and interests and our emotional context (not a feminine side!)

We are the same species but putting it simply men have evolved differently than women. Our DNA is 99.6% similar but it is that 0.4% difference that we need to talk about and address, because it helps explain why blokes have a warrior attitude to life and that we seek help differently than the ladies.

There are three main areas of difference that we talk about in the work we do:
1. Communication.

  • On average blokes will talk one third less than ladies per day (7000 words to 21,000 words) this starts from a young age from boys through to men. Anyone with a wife, mother, and mother in law, daughter, and partner will know this. But this is a good thing for the ladies as it helps them talk about a whole lot of issues that blokes don’t.
  • It is perfectly normal for blokes to talk in dot points and even just grunt!

2. Risk-taking.

  • Blokes are hard wired to take risks from an early age. Some of this is linked to our brain development. The brain development stage for a lady is roughly finished between the age of 18 to 20, whereas for a bloke it is between the age of 25 to 28 (some may say 45 to 50!)
  • As we get older we get wiser but are still hard wired to take risks

3. Winning. (a really important part of the warrior culture)

  • The majority  (90%) of Aussie men think winning is important (a trait that can be traced back to our true warrior days for survival)
  • An alarming stat is that 50% of blokes think winning is all that matters. So quite often blokes don’t take a backward step when it comes to finances, relationships and/or business matters.

Due to the importance blokes place on winning, explains why a loss event and/or a sense of loss becomes problematic and can be really hard to deal with. Combine this with the lack of understanding about our emotional context and we can have a ticking time bomb.

As blokes we need to be more aware of our emotional context and that it is alright to show it. That is we all experience emotional times, so we can show it (maybe a hug or a cry) and/or to use language that is foreign to us to express our emotional context i.e. I am sad and/or I am struggling here.

Talk to a Mate!!  It is beneficial and you will realise that you’re not alone, it’s not just you and there’s a lot of other blokes feeling the same way.

Cheers

Owen & the Team


The Regional Men’s Health Initiative
delivered by Wheatbelt Men’s Health (Inc.)        
PO Box 768, Northam WA 6401            
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www.regionalmenshealth.com.au